How many times have you set a goal, went all guns blazing and then few weeks later feel deflated and lost the drive? We have all done it, and what have we done to ourselves after? Beat ourselves up and branded ourselves a failure and declared that we simply are not cut out for this.I’ve been there a few times, but now I know the key to breaking that cycle. Let me share with you.
Get some passion
First of all, probably the number one reason why most of us don’t know how to set goals and fall by the wayside with any goal set is we simply are just not that passionate about it and you don’t have a ‘Strong Why’
Let’s not confuse goals with tasks and daily errands. Set goals that are going to push you that requires ambition and that will elevate you higher.
If your goals set are based on ideas of ‘ Oh Maybe this is what I think I should be doing with my life right now’ or ‘I kinda like to do this’ etc then your reason for doing it….. your why is simply not strong enough. You will probably find you are always going to fall short in reaching that goal..
Get a piece of paper, a journal/notebook or write a document on your device and evaluate what’s going on in your life right now. Take the time to list things you really feel truly passionate about, what are you grateful for, areas in your life that you want to improve. It sounds cheesy yes but if you feel like a person who is lacking clarity right now and not sure which direction to take in life then this exercise is needed.
First things first set the scene.. How to set goals
Being well rounded is important, there is always going to be one or two goals that shine through but if you set goals for a few areas in your life instead of just one you will feel like a much more rounded person. Your life goals may be a little different to mine but I have set goals for the following areas below.
Home and Family life
Health and Body
Friends and Social
Choose some main goals for each of these areas for the next 365 days… We are setting the scene this it the bigger picture but don’t stop there, this is where people make the mistake. They put the goal out there and fail to dissect it. Let’s get some gumption and let’s start breaking these goals into manageable bites and habits. ( If you follow us on Instagram or Facebook you will have seen me talking about this)
Brainstorm and write down the ways you will need to achieve these goals. Now look.. if we knew everything already we probably wouldn’t need to be setting these goals and we would have already achieved them. When you are passionate about something you will want to know to know every little thing about it, growing your knowledge base is key. So you may need to do a lil research into how you can realistically achieve these goals, how long it will take and what you might need. You may need to apply the good old rule of thumb here and set Smart Goals.
- TIME SET
How to eat a frog … one bite at a time
A lil gross but hey you get the idea. Now we have the main goals set, what can we do in the next 90 days to help us get closer to our goal? What are you going to tackle first? Think about the order these tasks need completing. No sense in steaming ahead with graphics for a website idea if you don’t have the domain name registered etc. Set some mini goals for the next 90 days that require action, these will probably be things that will take up time and need to be tasked into your every day To Do list. Don’t set yourself too many tasks at one time, make it achievable. Setting too many tasks to do in one day is a sure fire way to head to melt down. Set yourself a goal date of when you need to achieve it and you’re off.
Here is where I put my love of bullet journaling to good use. I open it every morning or sometimes I write it in it a night things I need to get done for the day and plan in something daily that helps me get closer to achieving my 90-day goals. ( Read here to learn more about The Bullet Journal Life) Don’t forget to list daily things that bring you joy and you are grateful for as a little reminder of happiness.
Regularly check back to your main year goals and 90-day goals you have set. Some days you may feel a little bit lost and that’s because you may be forgetting the reason why the hell you set this goal or something has happened in your life and you have become distracted. Go back and read the passion and the meaning behind why you set the goal in the first place. Make sure it’s aligned with you, sometimes it’s that little jolt you need to get going again.
Each week evaluate what you got done, why you think you made it a success and why that formula is working for you. Hey sometimes things don’t pan out, you need to address it not let it follow you around like a bad smell so you don’t keep making the same mistakes. How can you change your mindset to make it work, do you need a specific tool to really help you upgrade your task, or maybe it’s as simple as asking or accepting help which you previously was too proud to take.
Let’s go! and tell someone about it
Now that you have that lil mini formula on how to set goals, ‘On Your Marks- Get Set- Go’ Since I have been really taking pen to paper and setting true goals for areas in my life the success rate of me achieving the things I want has skyrocketed. I believe there is definitely something into to writing my goals down on paper ( it’s like a little life note sent out to the universe highlighting my intentions) but if you are a techy why not write it on your phone or computer. I am a little bit of a stationery geek so I love my Leuchtrum notebook and my Daily Greatness journal.Great if you are not into all the fuss of planning it all out and figuring it out yourself then a pre-printed journal may be the one for you. Don’t forget to to tell someone about these goals you have set ( if they are not super personal mind) it will help you stay accountable. This is why I love Instagram great for this kind of thing. p.s you can tag me in your goal intentionS if you like. I love hearing about other people’s journeys.
But what about he said and she said..
People have often said to me….’boy.. you must have a lot of time on your hands if you have time to do that’ Simply I make the time, things I am passionate about I carve out time and get it done. A lot of the time people may be wasting too much of their time on things that are distracting. I don’t watch much tv during the day only for an hour or two at night. I turn the app settings off so I am not on my social media all day long and get on with the tasks at hand I also have family, wife/ mother goals set so they are not neglected ( Always working on this) You may be thinking sure yeah yeah all sounds so simple. I have ‘Strong whys’ to my goals and this in turn and has helped me set structure and give purpose to my day, you need to make sure your goals have strong purpose to.
The other day I was also asked ‘why are you writing this’….again ‘you have a lot of time’ I don’t have any more extra spare time than you I just make time for things I want to get done – I truly enjoy and am passionate about sharing things and motivating people with things I have learnt that can help make their lives easier. Don’t allow anyone else’s thoughts and judgements to cloud the reasons why you are doing things. Blessing and positive vibes always.
If you found this post helpful or recently implemented something similar in your life let me know in comments below. I would love to hear.